Something that is not talk. He wouldn't be using his mouth to communicate with you. I know someones husband on one of the threads was over cleaning the kitchen so his W wouldn't have to do it.
OP, he always tries to come to the house to do things ALL THE TIME. For example, garden, cut the grass, shovel the snow, redecorate, and so on. Since the day we first moved here.
He would also be more than happy to be intimate.
But it was always like cake-eating -- he would have all the benefits of us and the home and the family on the days he wanted to be here, and then went back to his single life on the other days (said he had to work, which I guess he did). I booted him out, because I didn't want to live the next X years like that, while he simultaneously built up another life independant of me elsewhere.
Which threw me into this current tailspin, which in some ways is much harder then the original bomb.
And I don't see how that will change, or what signs to look for, unless he actually up and left the other city and moved here, or had us move there with him. But he won't leave all his hard-earned independance without assurances from me that it WILL work out, which of course I can't know or prove, or maybe he just wants both. Arrrggghhhh!!!
