This is what I'm having trouble with right now. She brought up several things, such as me going out more, not giving her a kiss, not calling her while she was away at her concert when other girls H called them. Is it time to try to connect with her in small ways again? And, will she automatically push me away to see if I will stop?
She has obviously noticed things being different with me. I have never once got pissy with her about anything she says. A lot of listening, looking her in the eyes and validating. Should I keep pulling back? It seems to be working. But, the things she has brought up, is now the time to go to her and kiss her, stuff like that?
Don't want to do this wrong now that things are, what, changing in one direction or another.
My advice would be no, it is not time "to go to her and kiss her, stuff like that".
Your W is trying to blame you for the way she is acting. It's YOUR fault. If you would kiss her goodnight and goodbye, things would be SO much better.
That's a load of BS, and a tactic my W used on me as well. She's stalling you.
Showing her affection is fine if you both have agreed to reconcile and all OM contact is over with. Short of that, you have to stay a tough guy with regards to her affair while she is under your roof.
The second you start being lovey dovey without confirmation of the affair being over, she will cake eat and prolong your misery. She's trying to take the pressure from home off of her. Make sure she understands that you are not creating consequences because you enjoy it. They are the results of her choices and her choices alone.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
