OK my mind's all over the place today and I'm posting all this in bits and pieces.
So I looked at the calendar. She was supposed to have DD on the 26th/27th. So she's leaving the night of the 27th. So I won't see DD for 10 maybe 11 days.
I feel like saying something but what will it do except increase tension?
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
agree, you do not want to send that draft email. it sounds very needy and definitely not the R talk you need.
can't read more...my H is in town, and he really doesn't like me on here a lot. his LL is quality time.
so, I'll catch up later and try to write.
sorry DD will be gone longer than you wanted. It really is her choice though either way. and because you have half custody, that would almost mean you could do the same thing. not that you would, but I wonder what she would do about that.
oh well, gotta go. ((Romeo))
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
"I understand. Let me know if you want me to drop off/pick you up to/from the a/p."
Thanks ST! I won't send her the draft email. Enjoy your time with your H! my LL is quality time too!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
SR, I agree...don't send the email about how her dissatisfaction is not justified. It's pursuing and basically trying to argue her out of how she feels, which isn't going to work unfortunately.
That sucks that your D will be away that long. Maybe you could talk with her after she returns and restate what you feel comfortable with in terms of separations. I agree that there's not much point in making a stink about this trip.
take care...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
So yesterday afternoon after I got home I had several chores I had to do. Then made some dinner (thank God for Lean Cuisine! lol) and watched a movie. DD called to say goodnight but she was crying a lot saying she wanted to be with me and not mommy. I asked her if she got to play with her friend there and she said no her friend didn't want to play with her. Usually we talk for a couple of mins and usually she's the one to say 'ok daddy, can I go now' lol but last night we talked for almost 12mins mostly she just kept saying 'I don't want you to go' etc and just crying. A few times I got worried thinking maybe she was alone in the room and got scared or something but I asked if mommy was there and she said yes.
Normally, I'd text W back in a bit and just check to make sure DD was ok and she'd typically say something with a cavalier tone 'yeah she's just tired' etc but this time I resisted and haven't texted or said anything. Kind of a 180 for me. I know she's a good mom so she'll take care of DD.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Good resistance about texting W. You're right- she'll take care of D. Lots of meetings today but will check in later--
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
Juno, I was wondering where you were since you haven't checked in even on your own thread since yesterday. I was hoping you and H were enjoying a candle light dinner somewhere
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Wow can't believe it's Fri already tomorrow. DD will be with me the next three days (first time trying the whole weekend with one parent). I have to plan a few fun things to do with her...
- Beach - Bike riding at the back bay (a little ways away) - Maybe zoo/legoland or something
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
