That text may just have been a response to your phone call the day before. I suspect you phoning H is causing a LOT of stress over there.
That's why I encoruage exposure so heavily on the OWH end.. it takes the fight to OW's doorstep and they usually don't like counter attack.
OP like to attack hosueholds in the dark, in secret... they are cowardly. Once you expose it and start fighting back and attack THEIR home suddenly they fall apart and don't like it when THEIR home is being poked at... they are just getting a MILD taste of their own damage.... at least YOU had the class to attack her home and expose this mess in public. SHE was attacking YOURS in SECRET.
At least you have the guts to show your choices in the open and own them.
