If your H has been told to cease contact, ( and I know you don't know how REALLY truthful that is at the moment), maybe now is the time to listen and be welcoming?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength