OIN you need to learn to appreciate the "shots" she's throwing at you ask cries for HELP and her desperately telling you how MISERABLE she is.
The focus should be on HER when she does this, not how YOU feel about words like that. I am sure you took your fair share of shots at her too... you need to set an example by just ignoring them... yes she wants to hurt you... so what are you gonna do about it?
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W: we really need to think about whether or not we are going to breed or spade her
Me: I would love for us to do something like that, I would be happy to help in any way I can. It sounds like fun. Thank you again for bringing her into our home.
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W: honestly, if you are going to keep her when I leave than that is up to you.
Me: If you decide to leave then we have a lot of painful decisions we have to make. Each day with you I am thinking more and more it is giong to be as painful to undo a marriage as it would be to repair it. I am seeing a famliy therapist, so the ball's really in your court there.
(pause)
Thank you again for bringing her into our home, I really love this dog.
