I'm about to show my ignorance here, so be patient with me. I obviously don't know much about this process, but wouldn't your presence be required at a hearing?
As for the OM, how recently did she say she was in love with him?
By your descriptions, I can tell that she's very conflicted. I feel for you both (but you especially since my loyalties lie with you).
Though it's hard, try to enjoy the nice weather. If that doesn't work, then maybe a few sips of wine will do the trick.
