If he chucks it back in your face - what have you lost -
Dignity and self respect for starters, which has been trodden on my WS already. He wont' even ACKNOWLEDGE he's cheating, he keeps avoiding it and redirecting... very different from your sitation.
Originally Posted By: saffie
Took my H a year before one day, out of the blue, he suddenly said what an awful woman OW was and he couldn't believe what he had done and he was SO sorry. He had apologised many times before.....but that apology was different.
I should also state that my H made all correspondence between OW and himself from the day he told me of the A, and historical communications, open to me. Any future communication she tried to make was sent to me too and finally lawyers got involved.
Again very different from this situation. Your H was man enough to acknowledge what he was doing and own it from the start... Pass' husband is completely deluded still.
I am all for Pass writing him a letter and owning the choices she's made, but I stronly believe that this must be followed up with the standard confrontation statement in the same letter.
I have made mistakes over the years... I have done a, b, and c. We both made a lot of mistakes. It is time we took ownership of those, you are absolutely correct.
Now, you are hurting ME by doing x, y, and z.
Please stop your infidelity.
Something like that.
- And bear in mind anything written down he may very well just forward to OW... she may even have his email account credentials and be checking his mail for him. Another risk of writing him given how demonstrably controlling she's been. When you write him, you risk looking desperate to her.
