W is helping with school fundraiser dance this Sat. She is also coaching track and has a v'ball tourn Sat. When I got home last night, she was on the phone and stayed on the phone for two hours. Said she was getting track stuff and dance and v'ball things figured out for the week. I didn't ask or say anything about who she was talking to. I asked if she had enough help. She said no, she had scheduled days off of work and they now want her to come in Sat and Sun and it pissed her off because work had already OK'd the time off. Now she had all this stuff to do and didn't have time to do it. She has to be at the dance early to get the food ready. She, of course, said she would do it all herself. Then after the dance, she has to clean up and then be at work at 4:00am. I said I would be there to help and I'm sure others will stay and help clean up, she didn't have to do it by herself. She said I hadn't mentioned if I was going or not, she didn't care if I was there or not, she still had to do it all and wouldn't get any sleep because she had to go to work.
I helped the kids with homework and did showers and got them ready for bed all while she was on the phone again. Then I sat down to watch The Pacific. Really good show so far. She got up and took a shower and came back in for a while. No talking at all. After about ten minutes, she said she was going to bed, got up and left the room. No kiss tonight.
I know she is stressed. When we had our talk this weekend, she said how I would leave for work or go to bed without giving her a kiss sometimes. I mentioned that she did the same and I wasn't going to force myself on her. She knows I want to work this out and I won't pressure her to. But, if she didn't, she needed to be the one to go, etc.... We had a couple of relaxing days between then and now, but here we are back to the same ol', same ol'.
So, now what? Patience, relaxed, happy go lucky, I'm OK no matter what? Or do I push for her to make up her mind and stay or go, but do it now? Do I go to the dance, even thought she doesn't care if I'm there or not? It's for the kid's school so I have the right to be there, but not if I will be ignored by her all night.
