Husband being hateful and cruel. Is this a stage?

[ericmsant2]

CK

I'm glad to see that you are doing okay given everything that is going on. You should take some solace in this- you really are doing this although you may not feel that way some times.

although I am emotionally drained.

yes the MLC rollercoaster will do this to you. Make sure that you are getting enough sleep and that you are doing things to keep yourself busy. The more you focus on HIM and HIS issue the more drained you become. So rest.

I sure do miss being able to sit and talk and watch TV with my h. He was my best friend.

A normal feeling...dear...Just realize that YOU will get through this - you will.

I decided to take out my frustrations on cleaning my house and doing a little yard work.

Are you interested in comming to CT...I have a ton of yard work that would help with the fustration Just kidding..seriously thought it is good that you are "releasing" the fustration.

While he's in his quiet townhouse with no responsibilities.

Yep --- but just know that ONE Day he will need to take responsibilities for HIS actions. No one knows when that day will come but I believe that one day EVERYONE will need to answer for there actions.

And, perhaps he can reconnect with my h and be there to support him.

IMO...the counselor should be careful here. You do not want him to invalidate how your H feels. Remember the issues that your H has are HIS to deal with. There are no shortcuts...he needs to deal with them. YOu want make sure that the IC does not try and "push" or "convince" your H.

I am sorry to hear about the L and your employment issues. Right now I think you need to trust God and just take care of YOU. Believe Him...he will answer.

Eric