Hopefully a new beginning

[Mila]

Maybe we should not question it and just believe in those feelings. Power of positive thinking? Maybe if we feel it we project some of that energy onto WH. The universe works in mysterious ways...

[SecondChance]

WOW!!!

Maybe that's why I can't let go too?
The subconscious sort of thinking/knowing something different?
Maybe.

Great to hear your sitch, good luck, good luck!!

[kissak]

Thank you

You know it is just a gut feeling...I have to say it may have been different if my H had acted differently towards me during our separation. But he never acted as if he was done either....so thats why im saying I just always had that feeling....maybe to it was having faith that God would restore our marriage.

Either way, things will work out for the good.

[trustingfaith]

I agree here, too. My H is still at home and all along there has been that hope, as well as faith. This has tested my faith like nothing else in my life EVER has - not that it is a bad thing, but it is a HARD thing!

[SecondChance]

I wonder if that's what people mean, sort of, when they say that marriage is hard work?

[kissak]

Oh boy is it ever hard!! But hopefully worth it all in the end!

[DiamondGirl]

I have to say it may have been different if my H had acted differently towards me during our separation. But he never acted as if he was done either....

Can you explain a little of what you mean by this?

[kissak]

My H just never acted like he was done to me. He would always be wondering what was going on with me, if I was seeing someone, always being concerned, always calling or texting me. He was never just one of those done and walk away types, even with the OW...I mean, he would go through times where I didnt hear from him, but that was when I wasnt talking to him and he knew I didnt want to talk to him. I just felt like he never went away...he werent a walk away. It was like he kept looking back. It just gave me the impression that he wasnt done...

also, if he had acted differently, I may have felt differently about it...if he hadnt stuck around doing these things, I believe it would have been different.

[DiamondGirl]

My H, to my face says it's done, etc. BUT

- he hasn't taken any of his clothes other than the one suitcase

- his birthday was in March and he renewed his Driver's license to my address (he's been gone since November)

- he gets upset when he hears I'm getting rid of things/doing things in the house

- I hear from SIL that he's said to her he's confused, wants to come home, etc at times.. and that he's said he thinks he's made a mistake with OW etc at times..

So I'm not sure if he's really done and gone for good or if he's only just projecting that to me and me alone...

I try not to think about it too much or I might go crazy myself.. but my gut says we aren't done... so I'm stalling..

(sorry if I hijacked with this)

[kissak]

I can honestly say My H never said he was DONE. He wouldnt. I would beg him to tell me he was, but he said he just couldnt say it...basically his point of view was saying that maybe years down the road we would get back together, therefore...we werent done...just his crazy way of looking at things.

Actually he did do things that made me think he was done at times...like separating alot of the financial things, getting separation papers (although we never signed them), looking for an apartment to share with the OW, etc...

I understand the stalling part....I think I did alot of that myself.

It seems to me that your H may not be done, or is he just afraid to go through with it? I mean you can say your done...but actions speak louder, right?