Oh.. I almost forgot. The garage is EMPTY. I half expected to see the wedding dress in the garbage can. But she had the movers clean everything except a couple items. Very clean. Just a few more boxes on my part and finito.
--Fergie
NICE! My goal is to have my garage cleared out of H's stuff so I can get my car in there before tornado season..which is coming up soon!
Just be you. Follow your plan. Embrace where you are.
So... you're saying I do or I don't need a makeover? LOL You would know best.
BobbiJo -- starting wearing Obsession again... thought you'd like to know.
Alarm went off and I woke up to Rascal Flatts "Here Come Goodbye". I'm going to have to change stations. That's the second time that happened.
No other news. Still following "The Plan", stan. NO CONTACT.
--Fergie /slashies
And I hear you on the music thing. Right when I got the affair bomb, Sugraland's "Why Don't You Stay" was all over the radio and the country music video scene. Crazy ow even drove by my house at 1 am blaring it once....still can't listen to that song. Had to take a brief break from country back then...
That is a change for me. But sometimes you gotta go back to the well. Can't be all change-y.
Agreed. You shouldn't change everything. But what exactly have you changed? You already had your hobbies, haven't started any new ones. Haven't changed your appearance (no need for new shirts). Haven't changed your routine. So what are you doing that's a 180?
If you are totally happy with who you are and where you are, then fine. And honestly, you sound like a good guy to me. But if you aren't willing to change now then you probably never will. Again, fine if that's what you want. I just don't want you to look back and realize this was an opportunity to change your life for the better and you didn't take advantage of it.
My pov has always been that this sucks big time and if I have to go through it I should at least get something good out of it. Whether or not I end up with BF I know that I'm working on becoming a better person so I'm happy with myself.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Fergie may want to change things up a bit physically, because he's now, kind of, a single guy. But, he certainly doesn't need to. He's nicely groomed, well dressed, and a calm, welcoming presence.
Activities? Sounds like he's quite busy with what he has... How about it, Fergie?
BUT, his biggest self-comfort will come from changing up what got he and his W to where they are now... separated, and not happy w/the M the way it was. Maybe it's counseling, maybe it's dating others, maybe it's just being apart... It might be that it's not meant to happen. Personalities grown in two different directions. Sad, but definitely something that can be recovered from.
I see this as a little different situation than a lot of others here... Looks, demeanor, weight issues aside...
If he jazzed it up for himself, he would truly be doing it for himself, because, if it was a 180 for their M, it would probably be rubbing salt in a wound. He doesn't need to look BETTER.
If he became more outgoing or did activities for himself, he would truly be doing it for himself, because, if it was a 180 in their M, it would ALSO be rubbing salt in a wound. He doesn't need MORE stuff to do.
Not sure what I am trying to say other than... I think it's a bit different.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I love it!