Thanks for these examples! What would be the best way to say "I can't take you seriously and pursue our marriage/be in a relationship with you, unless you're in IC"? (I've already said it like this two months ago).

Here's what I thought of but I bet it can be improved:
"I can't feel hopeful about our marriage unless we're both in IC." (I am.)

Thanks again

M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years