1) I realized his rejection of me wasn't really about me, it was about him. He hates his life and has to find a scapegoat, so it's me...so I have learned that is just isn't my problem to worry about!
2) I started taking care of myself, and rediscovering my self, what I like, what I don't like, etc etc instead of trying to fit a mold that I hoped would make him happy. The irony here is you can't change to please them bc then they don't like this contrived person you have become anyway! Dan has told me to my face that I am more like the old BBJ he used to know and love and he is glad to see that...so when he lashes out I remember that he isn't really mad at me anyway
3) I won't lie, getting attention from the opposite sex helps. Yesterday I got a text and was actually disappointed that is was from Dan and not R...funny how things change!!
