I keep wondering why I can't past her/this?...I promised to love, honor and obey this woman and I want to keep that promise. I'm just such a fixer. I think I can fix everything. I keep believing buried under all the depression and anger is the person I married nearly 14 years ago.
But I was still responding to a memory of someone long gone.
In Getting Past Your Breakup, Susan J. Elliott says:
"But above all else: forget this person you fell in love with. They are never coming back. The person who LEFT YOU is more in line with who this person REALLY is than the person you fell in love with."
Tough. Tough to swallow. To accept. But more often than not this is dead on.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
