You have to stay focussed on the business aspect of all of this and make the best deal you can for yourself. You won't get a chance for a DO OVER.
We all had to go through it and yes - it was very daunting - far more daunting to think about it than to actually get down to getting the info I needed. Your lawyer will let you know what receipts you need. The bank statements will show a lot. As far as cash - just write it down. No, you can't actually prove it but just document what he gave you and give the info to your Lawyer.
Most of us had to go through all this crap when we did not want a divorce. When we were trying to struggle to keep our homes. When we were trying to deal with the emotional crisis our children were going through as well as ourselves. It is not fair. It is not pleasant. And it is not easy. But it is also not the end of the world.
The sooner you get on with the financials, the sooner you will start to feel better. You need to let go of the past and focus on your future. Getting the career you want. Furthering your education if that will give you a better future. Doing nice things for yourself. Getting out socially.
Pace yourself. Push yourself to do a certain amount of the divorce work each day. Then get out and enjoy life, knowing you have something accomplished.
This is YOUR life. You are the only one who can do the work. But you are also the one who will reap the rewards. Keep the faith!
