freckles said: Just because you do this again, doesn't mean you have to keep hiding when he comes over. I think that just because of everything last week, it's best you keep up some of this "going dark" stuff up. And being at the neighbors will make it less likely that you try to initiate any R talks with him. Maybe if this cease fire keeps up through the weekend, you can start staying home, but holed away in another room and then reassess at that time.
I agree.
Go to neighbors as planned. Don't back down. He said he was looking forward to seeing you to engage the old push pull. don't be part of it. Wait for real change and real coming forward.
And go pleasantly and friendly like. not passive aggressive. Go with a hope you two have a nice night; talk to you soon attitude.
