Positive Moments... The Sequel

[K4D]

It is Easter. So I don't want to discuss it tonight. But I am healthier in a lot of ways today than I was 2 years ago. I will explain more and answer your questions tomorrow or later on this week.

I did make it to midnight Easter mass last night. Today I spent the afternoon with W, our daughters, and her mom and step dad at her step dads house. we had a very good afternoon. After it was over, W was tired and ready to disappear and take a nap. So I left and came home.

Kevin

[MrBond]

Sounds like a good Easter.

[Startingover2]

Glad you had a good Easter. Another hurdle gone. Holidays are so hard. Makes everyone on edge in these situations.

[jon2911]

Good job Kevin! Let's hit up the Hard Eight Barbecue again, sooner rather than later. I still have some left over...

[K4D]

Sounds good Jon. That has got to be the best bbq in all the land. I always eat more than I should there. Truly amazing.

How is that Ipad treating you?

Kevin

[Mrs. A]

Kevin, you don't know me because I almost never post, but let me tell you that you've been a wonderful inspiration for me. I think you're doing an amazing job!

In the end, we're doing this for ourselves, but we're also doing this for our spouses and our relationships!!! That's why we don't just say "forget it", right?

To me, it's not a question of whether I "could" be happy without my H; it's a question of whether he's worth the time and energy - and yes he is!!!

It seems like it's kind of the same with you and your W. It reminds me of the Huey Lewis and the News song, Doin' It All For My Baby.

I think you have GAL'd, etc. etc. to the MAX and you should give yourself some credit! You're a totally awesome Divorce Buster.

With much hope and great accolades,
Mrs. A

[K4D]

Thanks Mrs. A,

I think you are over complimenting me, but I appreciate the gesture none the less.

25,

2 years since the first reconciliation. What would be different? I don't need her anymore. I don't even want her the way she currently is. My life is actually happier without her in her current state than it would be with her in her current state.

I have a life now. I didn't before. I rely on myself now. I didn't before. I have friends now. I really didn't before. I don't need her to be happy. I did before. I didn't have my drinking completely under control before. I do now. I have other interests that I didn't before. I love her. But I don't like the way she currently is. So at times I find myself saying this is better unless she makes some changes. I wouldn't have said that 2 years ago.

April 21st is the 2 year anniversary of my mother's death. That is the week we reconciled in Florida. But I don't know if it was a real reconciliation or not. I think it was an attempted one, but I had not had enough time to change the way I needed to. I'm ready to be who I need to be for her now if she wants to reconcile, but I don't want to reconcile unless she changes herself which she has not done yet.

My life is good. A changed wife would be a bonus, but not a necessity. I am going to be fine no matter what happens. I couldn't have said that 2 years ago. I am no longer dependent on her.

I don't know if that answers your questions or not. But things are different with me today than they were 2 years ago. I am now at the point where I struggle with whether or not I want her back. She would have to prove to me she is different for me to take her back now.

It has become my choice now not hers should she decide she wants to come back.

Kevin

[v1olin]

Right on Kevin, sounding good!

[K4D]

Swimming laps for an hour every day now after work. And other than that dang buffet I had tonight, I am doing great. I plan on looking awesome and feeling great this summer. I have just under 2 months to look my best before June.

Kevin

[BobbiJo]

I plan on looking awesome and feeling great this summer. I have just under 2 months to look my best before June.

Love that goal....you and me both pal! Still need to try sushi one of these days....