Is this piecing?

[Freckle6]

What Flo said about being dim "working" for you right now. Go to the neighbors with a smile on your face throwing kisses as you close the door.

Just because you do this again, doesn't mean you have to keep hiding when he comes over. I think that just because of everything last week, it's best you keep up some of this "going dark" stuff up. And being at the neighbors will make it less likely that you try to initiate any R talks with him. Maybe if this cease fire keeps up through the weekend, you can start staying home, but holed away in another room and then reassess at that time.

How does he rationalize going to MC with you but saying everything else he did? Do you guys talk about R issues or is it focused on parenting/family issues? I know rational and WAS doesn't work, but this is like an extreme example of mixed signals and confusion.

You're doing good. stay strong. If the urge to talk to him gets too bad, write him a letter. Then stuff it somewhere, burn it, post it here, or whatever--but don't give it to him. I wrote lots of those letters. It helped getting my feelings out and organized and by the time I was done, I was usually so emotionally exhausted, I couldn't have talked to him about the weather, let alone anything else.