I called and she picked up and would NOT give him the phone. It was ridiculous. And I'm controlling. LOLOL.
Anyway, it was bad, she baited me, I fell for it, tried to remain calm, just kept asking to speak to OWH, but she put me on speaker phone. So, I said what I needed to say to him with her listening. That they were still emailing each other and nothing had changed. She baited me some more, saying if he is emailing her, she's going to respond. I told her to stop responding to him, and she gave me a story about them being friends for 27 years. (bear in mind, they went to high school together and barely talked, and just "reunited" at his high school reunion) She said she's going to listen to him pour his heart out to her. So, I hung up and sent a text message, saying to him to google PEA + brain chemicals +affairs and to get Not Just Friends and read it. That NO CONTACT must be maintained for the withdrawal to occur and if there was contact at all, the withdrawal would not happen and essentially the affair will continue.
Then I told her (knowing she would be reading his phone) that if she thinks she is going to be able to work on her M while staying in contact with H, she's deluding herself. Then I turned off my phone.
