You could be on to something with the looking back etc.
I actually just returned to the office about an hour ago from our final mediation session. I now have a final settlement document that will go to our respective attorneys for review.
It is all over except for the crying. The mediator told us we were the easiest couple he has ever dealt with. He commented on how well we get along. This whole thing makes no sense to me. We joked and teased eachother and if you were an independent observer you would never know we were negotiating a divorce settlement and if told you wouldn't believe it.
The first thing I did when we sat down was address OP intro to the kids. I was emphatic about delaying any such intro whether it was OM or OW until we absolutely sure it was a serious relationship. All agreed but the reality is words are cheap. My W mentioned the holidays so she clearly has a date in mind. The Holidays unbelieveable!
Our final agreement as it sits is one I am comfortable with and probably the best I could have expected going in.
Unfortunately, our M will not survive but there is always another day.
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)