Once every other week? Amateur. Try every three months if you're lucky. And no, backing off does nothing except let him breathe a sigh of relief, I suppose. Without me mentioning it, the idea certainly never crosses his mind. Not a medical issue, sadly... that would at least have potential to be fixed. The sex we have is good, but vanilla, though even once a week would seem like heaven to me. Given my druthers it'd be every night and more than the occasional morning, too.
I've spent so many years not only not being pursued but being actively rejected. Eggs, indeed. It's a wonder I do ever still try.
Our "breakthrough" in the past few months is that he doesn't reject me. I should be happy, although heaven knows I dare not push my luck too often. I should be ecstatic, no? My husband deigns to [censored] me. How wonderful for me. But it's not the orgasms I want ... those I'm quite capable of, thank you, it's the feeling of being wanted and desired, of being made to feel attractive as opposed to being placated, and that just doesn't come from "yeah okay".
So yes, I've had sex at least 5 times since the year began. A record in recent years, to be sure, but I'm having a hard time appreciating the progress.
Try every three months if you're lucky. And no, backing off does nothing except let him breathe a sigh of relief, I suppose. Without me mentioning it, the idea certainly never crosses his mind. Not a medical issue, sadly... that would at least have potential to be fixed. The sex we have is good, but vanilla, though even once a week would seem like heaven to me. Given my druthers it'd be every night and more than the occasional morning, too. 