Like I said guys, I've never, ever, ever been one to have anything casual. Heck, I made Gabe wait 2 years while we were dating. Other reasons, but still.......what the heck have I become? Some kind of sex-starved maniac?
Oh well....it sure was fun!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
1) I call BULL on the FWB biz. Maybe that's how you'd like to feel. I don't buy for a minute that is what is going on with you. Be honest with yourself.
2) XH has not been in a monogomous R for a very long time I'd guess anyway. Do NOT have unsafe sex with him.
3) Quit trying to figure our what last night meant for your life 15 years from now or even a year from now. You can't. Sorry, you are psychic. Astrology won't help you either.
4) Again, no sudden action. You need time to breathe, think, reflect. What works for YOU?
No matter what, that is the question that still matters the most. Work on being who YOU want to be.
BTW, that "what works for you" question also applies to "what works for you in bed" should you find yourself back there. I bring this up, because the last thing you want to do is renew yourself sexually in a way that brings in old stuff that didn't work for you. (Not saying there was any, but I think for most young women, there is. You know, like faking Os, hiding what you really want, etc...) Forget Gabe, forget what might happen next week. Right now the focus is on YOU. If you are going to be sexual, be sexually authentic. It is a fresh sexual start. Be who you really want to be sexually (as with the other parts of your life.)
Mishka, honestly my advice to you is to just relax. Don't over-think it as it will become a huge thing in your mind. Sometimes these things just happen, and it's fine.
1) I call BULL on the FWB biz. Maybe that's how you'd like to feel. I don't buy for a minute that is what is going on with you. Be honest with yourself.
2) XH has not been in a monogomous R for a very long time I'd guess anyway. Do NOT have unsafe sex with him.
3) Quit trying to figure our what last night meant for your life 15 years from now or even a year from now. You can't. Sorry, you are psychic. Astrology won't help you either.
4) Again, no sudden action. You need time to breathe, think, reflect. What works for YOU?
No matter what, that is the question that still matters the most. Work on being who YOU want to be.
I agree with OT here..
I don't think you can be F*** buddies with an ex....I don't think either one of you can get your mind wrapped around that the way it should be..I believe one or both of you will let your emotions take over before it's over with...FWB's are about one thing...sex..and that's it..
I'm afraid you are all right about FWB's just not working between us. The funny thing is that I'm the one that seems to be putting up walls between us, just being very offhand with him and he's the one that walks up behind me and grabs my butt playfully or jokes about the amount of cardio that must be involved in our extracurricular activities. Good GOD! WTH?
I'm going to have to sit him down and have a talk about boundaries with him ASAP. I think I need him to voice what he thinks is going on. I know what I want and what I don't want but I'm not very good at saying it out loud. Next hurdle!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
