We had a storm here that knocked out the power. My main clock was flashing like the power had gone off, but the time was still on. It was just behind one hour. So I had no idea that I was running late.
It wasn't until I got into my car and noticed the time on the dash that I had already missed the beginning of Mass. I called her right away when I found out. 9:00 mass and I called her at 9:15. I thought it was 8:15.
Honestly? She didn't even call me to see where I was. I asked her about why she didn't call me when I was so late, and she said she just thought I was on my way. Now I'm rarely late, and if Mass started at 9:00 and it was already 9:15, you would think she would call to see what the heck was going on. But no. She "chose" to be pissed. Now I don't mind that she was upset. I understand why she would be. But to hold it over my head all day after all the crap she pulled with the OM and her entitled attitude afterwards? No way. I apologized for being late more than once but she continued to stay angry.
She can remain angry, that's not a problem, but not telling me about it and just using the "silent treatment"? How juvenile can you get?
Oh well.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Actually I think she was just mad because she had to get up early. She had asked me before if there was a later Mass and I said there was just one other one and that was during our brunch.
Oh and BTW. I made plans for the brunch, but she didn't thank me for it. Yeah it was that kind of weekend.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Did you make plans with her to go to Mass? I am not saying to kiss her @ss I am just saying that she is watching you and she is waiting for you to screw up. I hope you did not get mad at her but rather appologize and then move on.
Did you ask her why you were getting the silent treatment? Asking her might get her to open up.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
"Did you make plans with her to go to Mass? I am not saying to kiss her @ss I am just saying that she is watching you and she is waiting for you to screw up. I hope you did not get mad at her but rather appologize and then move on."
Actually I was the one who suggested it. She wouldn't have gone otherwise. I apologized for missing it at least twice that day.
"Did you ask her why you were getting the silent treatment? Asking her might get her to open up."
I didn't really ask, I joked to her that she has a lousy poker face when she tries to hide that she's pissed. She kind of laughed and said "who said I was hiding it?"
I've gone past that point of being "tested". I was late. I apologized. Deal with it. In the beginning of my sitch I apologized for EVERYTHING. I stopped going overboard and only apologize when I know I'm wrong. I've already told her before that if she's ever upset at something I did to just let me know.
My W, as a whole, just doesn't open up. She tries to avoid conflict as much as possible. I was seeing her behavior as hiding her head in the sand and just keeping it all in. Even when I see that she's bothered by something, I ask her if she's okay or if there's something she'd like to talk about and she always says she's 'fine' or it's 'okay'.
That's what gets me so steamed about the OM. I would see something's wrong (even long before the OM), ask her about it, or do things to help her deal with issues without talking about it and she shafts me.
Her loss.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Yeah, I understand your point of veiw but you sound resentful. I think it is great that you suggested going to Mass and she actually WANTED to go. I can't even get my wife to have dinner with the kids and I. I see that you have a chance here and I think it is time to shelve the resentment over OM.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Oh I'm not resentful of the OM. I'm just in one of those moods. They've been coming more and more frequently since she's been showing more positive signs. It's like I want her to move a little faster.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
That's what gets me so steamed about the OM. I would see something's wrong (even long before the OM), ask her about it, or do things to help her deal with issues without talking about it and she shafts me.
