Another thing to remember is that you from what I can read here are getting almost ALL of your INTEL about the affair from H's behaviour.
There are TWO sides to this affair, HIS perception of the stabiilty of thier affair, and HER perception. While he may appear to you to still be "in love" and completley smitten.. SHE may be near the point where she wants NOTHING to DO wtih him... so ya, intel would be handy on that end, but its hard to get at wihtout access to his email.
Just keep in mind right now that you don't know where HER head is at... She DOES read like she's gold digging and I think you may have put a dent into that... She wrote quote detailed notes about the finances.. its clearly of interest to her...
Her hostility towoards you contacting her H is a HUGE sign that she didn't want him to know and that she's got second thoughts to my mind... if she didn't care if he knew, and she was 100% out the door, then she woudln't have been so angry... You touched a nerve there... if there ARE nerves there then there is some hesitancy on her part...
Yeah, I think I get to her. For instance, I sent Puppy's suggestion to her facebook message (just to jab a little) ME: I'm sorry you're choosing to lash out at me; I am not your enemy here. I felt you deserved to know the truth about what was going on, so you could do with it what you wish. And her response was: OW: How am I lashing out at you? Of course you're not an enemy, in fact I'm just asking how you're able to be married to a man who has disrespected you in the way that you described to me? You told me the truth about him but yet you remained married to him, so my question to you is, how are you able to have any sense of self worth or any respect for yourself to be married to a person who has done all those negative things? Do you understand my confusion? He is your husband not mine and so how is my being shocked 'lashing out' at you? Would you be able to explain your defensiveness to me so I can understand? I apologize for offending you .
...she apologizes to you for "offending" you but not having an A with your H...lol..sorry i see a little humor in how dumb people really are when having A.
just had to share that
gman
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
LOL, I hadn't caught that. I haven't been listening to her voice mails or anything, I figured why bother, I wouldn't learn anything other than she's a good liar. Already know that. I did save them, though.
One thing I caught was the sarcasm she used when saying I was telling the truth about H being a cheater... duh! He's cheating on ME with YOU - isn't that by DEFINITION being a cheater?
You're right, people ARE so dumb when having an A.
I love how H continues to defend her character. She is a nice person, a good person... yeah, and I'm a bad person because I'm faithful and true? LOL.
One thing I despair of is how quickly my H goes from woman to woman looking for validation and "completeness." I feel like he's ready to jump, although as Saffie says, he doesn't have anywhere to go.
But hey, got my motorcycle permit today. FIRST STEP TO INDEPENDENCE!
Other goals for myself: 1. Just got kayak from FIL, going to go solo on a trip overnight somewhere 2. Been trail running with DSD16, going to go on a weekend soon, just us girls and a few dogs for protection. 3. Signing up for motorcycle class to get the actual license 4. Haven't joined karate class yet, something keeps happening on the nights when it's held, but plan to do it soon. 5. Thinking of finishing up my classes to become a vet - I only have 3 classes left for undergraduate studies.
A LOT of my life went on hold to support his family, and now he's ready to dessert me. I'm upset about that a lot, but no time like the present to regain my self. The only thing I worry about is that I am 38 and recently lost a baby (3 months along) - I had really wanted to have children of my own, and I wonder if that will ever happen now.
I love how H continues to defend her character. She is a nice person, a good person... yeah, and I'm a bad person because I'm faithful and true? LOL.
I was bad person as well (maybe still...lol) until i showed her texts from him that basically showed her as a piece of a$$ to him....to hell with us faithful people....lol
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
One more thing just popped into my mind... when I called OW, H responded with a VERY forceful (read: unlike him) and VERY angry "the harassing phone calls and emails WILL stop."
One more reason to keep up the phone calls. It's definitely getting to him.
One more thing just popped into my mind... when I called OW, H responded with a VERY forceful (read: unlike him) and VERY angry "the harassing phone calls and emails WILL stop."
One more reason to keep up the phone calls. It's definitely getting to him.
If your spouse is cheating on you and what you're doing is upsetting them... you're likely doing something right..
If your sopuse is cheating on you and what you're doing is putting a smile no their face, you are likley enabling them
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It's definitely getting to him.