IF she is in MLC, you sounded controlling even to me (not in MLC). And that is just from reading text which doesn't convey any of the social interaction nuances.
Look SHOULD she be concerned about your concerns? I'd say in a healthy marriage...yes. But...that isn't the case right now.
As for home, look you know what works and what doesn't, you also know what you need to KILL inyourself to make this work. Scream in the car! Pick up a hobby on the way home...do you have an Xbox 360? : ) Pick up bad company 2 if you do.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
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