The latest with me

[ImprovedRomeo]

I don't know that you have any time pressure on this stuff- you could say it at any time, doesn't need to be now.

J, thanks for keeping me on track here I don't think there's any pressure and it can probably wait but I was hoping if I talked about it then it may make her think about what why she has to do this. As for the changes, I think she knew but maybe she forgot that I did change my behavior quite a bit but then again I'm not perfect and I slip up but mostly because of other reasons which are in her control. I guess I wanted to start the R talk with her just a bit in case she's already seeking D in the background...though I really shouldn't care what she does. I want to not care...

Hmmmm. I might say that this was longer than we'd talked about (is it?) but make no other reference to the time, and then follow with what you wrote. Also, is there any agreement that you will talk to DD at night while she's gone? Like before she goes to bed?

Yes I'd specifically said 5-7 days were reasonable but she's trying to say that it wasn't entirely up to her because of the airport she's flying out of. Though she could've flown back a day or two earlier. In a way I feel like she did it on purpose to push my buttons and to feel that she's in control.

Excellent point about arranging DD to call, in the past she always has. She went to visit her family last time too but she did skip a few days here and there. Again almost like she does it on purpose either because she's mad at me or to show that she's in charge. I try my best to just ignore it and not make a big deal about it.