but i can't understand why she's not urging him to at least try one MC session. i can only assume she's one of those "your marriage is so screwed don't even bother" types.
IF she's a good IC, she'll deal with topics he wants to and direct him to things that she think hit the right nerve. If he starts crying every time he mentions your M, she might steer clear for now.
IF she's bad, anything can happen.
That is why (I think) you need to decide what you want to do when he isn't capable.
