1) Snoop (more) and see if I can find evidence of affair. 2) Confront W with said evidence. 3) Demand she stop seeing him "or else" 4) Follow through on the "or else" if she refuses.
or if there is no evidence...
Demand she stop seeing him on principal that it's just not right for a married woman to be hanging with another man.
Choice #2
1) Get back to DB HARD. 2) Focus on myself. 3) Drop expectations. 4) BE who I want to be in our M no matter who she is. 5) Focus more on our boys. 6) GAL.
Yes, I did say a few posts ago that Choice #1 was not for me but it sure would FEEL good to do that, at least in the short term. Then again, as Jack said, once I go there, there's no turning back, whether there is an A or not so much.
Of course on this board, I would hope #2 is the one that would get the votes but damnit #1 seems like what I should do. I suppose that's just being in denial again. I suppose Jack was right when he called me out about OM being THE issue. Choice #1 is all about ridding a symptom and #2 is all about curing a disease. But that symptom, that's the one I can't stand.
