Ok. Just checked the mail and got a debit card for him. Apparently he's opened a seperate checking account. Do I just hand him the card tonight with all the bill info and say nothing? I opened it thinking they were mailing yet another set to us from when I lost mine a month ago. They'd sent four already so I thought they messed up again. Maybe he's opening his own account to deposit his check there, pay bills and only give me a small amount??? What do I do? We've had joint accounts for 14 years.