W officially in R w/ OM-

[Truegritter]

Jasper I agree with Eric . You need to live your life. If not you'll be stuck. Things will happen when they are supposed to happen.

I describe this detaching feeling and the freedom it gives as growing. You were attached to your broken marriage. That's why the first advice you get is.

Your M is dead.

You have to mourn that and you have for 7 months but you don't want to live in the coffin do you?

This growth is normal. Embrace it. Now look at it this way. You just graduated from 5th grade and your wife is in kindergarten still. You can't even relate to her anymore because of your growth.

She may catch up. she may not. But you know you don't want to go back to kindergarten.

I think you've made real progress in a short while.