Invinceable

[kat727]

You don't want more, he doesn't want more, it was what it was. Don't give it any more weight than that. How are you thinking of it?

You are doing fine hon.

kat

[BobbiJo]

You don't want more, he doesn't want more, it was what it was. Don't give it any more weight than that. How are you thinking of it?

You are doing fine hon.

kat

Are we sure neither of them wants more?? Just sayin...

Signed,

Deprived in Iowa


(ok just trying to inject a little humor)

[mishka422]

More of that...yes please. More headspace for him? NO THANK YOU.

I'm trying to just compartmentalize it as 'just sex'. That's so not my personality though. I have never, ever just had sex with someone for the fun of it. I guess there's a first time for everything huh?

Well, he 'chose' me? No, I was available and receptive. Over 2 years is just too danged long and even though I wouldn't trust him ever again with my heart I still trust him with other parts of me apparently.

My logical mind (what little there is of it!) has been thinking this through today.

It was fun.

It was intense.

He said I definitely hadn't lost my touch (score one for me!)

I still feel nothing much for him.

That last statement is pretty good I think. My brain knows that he's toxic, won't ever change into the man I thought he was for so many years, and can be nothing more that a friend and possible FWB.

There was no way in heck I was ever telling anyone what happened last night, but now I'm glad I did. It has helped me wrap my brain around it and separate what I did from what I feel. That was just sex. No real emotion (although there was cuddling, it was just nice - not romantic), raw lust. Yeah, that's it, raw lust.

THANK GOD!!!!!!!

[Virtually_Handsome]

He still chose you, mish. There isn't a rule that said he had to have sex last night! It doesn't sound to me like you jumped him!

[mishka422]

No, I didn't jump him. He started it. I just let him......

[Virtually_Handsome]

Don't be afraid to let that stroke your self esteem a bit!

[Kalni]

Use them and leave them? Dump them or dump them? LOL

Mish!!! How was it? I mean really? Twice?
K

[kat727]

I get the feeling that Sex...um Spring is in the air and all around too!

[MichelleLT]

It may have been 2 years for you, but it wasn't for him.

He choose you.

It was fun. Sex should always be fun.

It doesn't have to mean anything you don't want it to.

Hope you are grinning today.

[ClingingToHope]

I've never had a "friend with benefits." Some people just aren't meant to be married, but can occasionally fool around, or so I've read.

I know if W showed up one night and gave me "the look" that just melts my soul I'd go for it and worry about the repercussions in the morning. But then I'm a guy. Act first and think later.