Mike since you are the one who introduced me to my now favorite group, Lady Antebellum, this should put things in perspective...I posted it several months ago but think it even more appropriate now!
Lookin' For A Good Time (Dave Haywood / Charles Kelley / Hillary Scott / Keith Follese)
Girl you're beautiful You're bout near perfect But I bet somebody's already told you that Name your poison Name your passion Cause a boy like me just couldn't help but ask
Keep on talking to me baby I'm hanging on your every word Keep those drinks a coming maybe We'll both get what we deserve
Chorus How bout baby We make a promise To not promise anything more than one night Complicated situations Only get worse in the morning light Hey I'm just lookin' for a good time
Put in a long hard week doing this 9 to 5 And you're just the girl to get that off my mind You shouldn't 've worn that dress You shouldn't dance like that You got this little heart of mine in overdrive
I sure love this conversation The band is good, the music's loud But would you get the wrong impression If I called us a cab right now
Repeat Chorus
Go ahead and lie to me and pull me close Tell me that you love me even if you don't The rule is don't you ever even talk about forever But you never say never in life
Repeat Chorus
Hey I'm just lookin' for a good time
This song goes for Mish too, if she can pull it off...hey they had a good time, so be it, let it just be a good time...
In my case I don't have any plans of becoming the town hoochie, I just want to go out and have fun and laugh and flirt and let what happens, happens. I won't put myself in a position where I do things I don't want to do, like when I kissed vomit guy last November! Never gonna happen again...
I don't know if it's a Mars/Venus thing, or just a thing. I have been offered dinner at XW's place when getting or dropping of kids, sometimes I've accepted, sometimes not, as it has suited my schedule, or just how I am feeling. But I have ZERO interest in a relationship other than as an X. So I can understand where BBJ is coming from, pretty directly.
This song goes for Mish too, if she can pull it off...hey they had a good time, so be it, let it just be a good time...
In my case I don't have any plans of becoming the town hoochie, I just want to go out and have fun and laugh and flirt and let what happens, happens. I won't put myself in a position where I do things I don't want to do, like when I kissed vomit guy last November! Never gonna happen again...
well I understand all that..everyone has wants and needs...don't forget..CSR...we saw each other for months..it was a purely...Go out, have a good time, have sex..type relationship..no strings attached...it was fun..nobody got hurt..and we both knew up front what the relationship was for..
so...I do understand..completely..but like I said over on Mish's thread...
you have to have your mind right for that and not allow your emotions to get in the way..know what your going into before it starts..
you have to have your mind right for that and not allow your emotions to get in the way..know what your going into before it starts.. [/quote]
And this is why I think in my sitch it is easier than Mish's bc I am totally fine having a 'friends w/occasional benefits' thing with R, but I know that would f*ck up my head to try and do with Dan...
Perfect song BBJ. I'm so glad that I can be an inspiration of WHAT NOT TO DO!!! (said with a sly, self-affronting grin). I know for a fact I messed up good and knowing how Dan is with you and how he reacts to things and how you tended to be the caregiver and healer in your M, there is NO WAY you would ever want to put yourself in that situation. It messes you up pretty good.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Today I had my first mediation session and it went OK for a while and then spiraled out of control at the end and in the parking lot.
I just read your response to whether you still love Dan. I feel the same way. I believe I still love W. Even when she was raising her voice about how she feels bullied and always gives in and she's finally standing up for herself I just wanted to reach over and hug her.
But we have such vastly different recollections of how things got to this point and assume the worst about each other I can't imagine how she'll ever let that go.
I look at our house. I didn't want it. She did. I look at the pets that she cleans up after. She wanted them. I didn't. I look at her car, which is too small for her needs. She wanted it. I didn't.
She says I talk too much and never listen. She has a point. I listened for a long time but nothing ever changed. So I listened less and got frustrated. So W, who never talked much anyway, retreated even further. It was to the point where we never talked unless something went wrong and then it wasn't a talk, it was a dumping of six months of pent-up feeling.
So I believe I still love W, but I look at how we dealt with each other and I can't believe that we'll ever be healthy around each other. I still dream of her. I can't stop my brain.
To those down the road a ways, when do the LBS pain of rejection go away?
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
