Show of hands - expose or not - success stories

[saffie]

If you want to say something Pass, my advice is to write it in an email where you have comfort, time, and minimal stress and can say and do what you are comfortable doing. AND have time to think carefully about what you're going to say.

Very good point. I would also suggest that after you have written what you are going to write, you go away for half an hour and then come back and read it again. Try and think how you would feel to be on the receiving end of it as well, think of any way your words could be misinterpreted or used against you. Remember, your H won't be able to see your facial expression or body language.....and also remember that things that are written can come back and bite you as they can be kept as proof.

And be sure to reinforce your position on the infidelity.

.....and that goes without saying!!!!!!!! I am sure he has the message by now - but no harm in repeating it!!!!!