The problem is while a spouse is CHEATING and living in the same home and pushing for "talks" just to vent its hugely disrespectful and borderline abusive.
A healthy conversation has to start with equality. And with ONE spouse cheating and essentially HOLDING a GUN to their spouses head AND demanding to TALK at the same time, its a no brainer that the dynamics need to change. Its just an invitation to a lot of stress and hurt.
Talking means you put AWAY the knives first... he isn't putting away ANYTHING. He wants to keep the passive aggressive affair going and hurt his spouse AND get to VENT TOO... THAT is NOT something I would support as a basis for a conversation.
Next time you want to talk with someone put a gun at their head first and then see how productive the conversation is... and during an affair this is a very similar dynamic. Its not an equal conversation by any stretch.
