Let me explain, as a LBS who's MLC wife came back, I have alot in common with you. I do not want to make the mistake of falling back into old habits.
The quote below is only so you see where I drew my conclusion from.
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I am struggling with how to behave. I have turned back into the ass that was partly responsible for pushing her away long ago and I hate it. I am constantly questioning her about where she's been, going and who she's with (she says I text and call her constantly...which I suppose is true). In response, she says she feels like she's married to her dad and intentionally stops answering her phone sometimes. I have started getting very emotional, angry, paranoid and all the things I fought SO hard to stop being during the affair
I do not want to fall back into that old version of me either.
It is not that you weren't or aren't a good example, just allowing yourself to slip back into old habits...to be complacent again, perhaps? Is not a good example, but still one that can be valuable to others.
Again did not mean to come across as...a dick.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
