Game Point

[tryingtilDorR]

OK I am turning my attention to the next phase. That is why I read through Coach's old thread when Greek moved out (and even filed for D).

My W is not saying she is filing for D. She is just saying 'separate' at this point. Not good, but it gives me some hope that there is a crack in the door still even though she emphatically tells me 'its over'.

I am going to let her go like I should have months ago when she was here in the house with us. The fact that she was still here, even though she was talking to OM and not engaged int he M, still left me with hope because she hadn't moved out. However, I am now realizing how hard and stressful it has been, and there is a small consolation in her leaving that it will be easier to let her go if I don't have to deal with her every day. We will be able to go weeks without even seeing each other most likely depending upon how things go.

I plan on doing several things:

Obviously, above all else, be there for my kids who will be dealing with a lot.

a) fix up the house - I want to paint inside and do a bunch of work in the back yard and it will be easier without her around. Will need to make adjustments to the furniture after she removes some of it, as well as possibly buy a TV to replace whatever one she takes. She won't like it but its my house now even though legally she owns half.

b) step up my workouts (again - I slowed down over the winter a little)

c) work at home more - without her here it is an invitation to enjoy my house even more and my new job is going well enough that I can do some work at home. I will let people at work know what is going on at home, and since I will have kids every other week I will try to be home on most of the days they are here.

d) go dark - can't help it since we will have no reason to stay in contact outside of business matters with our kids, etc. This may be a good experience for me.

e) no panicking about money for about 3 months - if I analyze it I start to get panicky, but I have faith that 'everything will work out' Knowing that my ILs will help financially, up to and including paying my W off for her part of the equity in our home is comofrting, and I think more $$$s are going to be coming from my job soon as well so hopefully I can make it all work out.

That's about all I can think of for now.