Maybe you are just one of the lucky few that can pull this off. I don't have a whole lot of feelings for ex. I certainly don't want to have lunch, hang out or go to a movie with him. We were best friends before this last affair came to light. You don't treat your friends the way he treated me. He burned too many bridges in my book.

As for Dan, I think he will continue to stay connected to you as much as he can. That way he won't feel that he has done anything really "wrong". He has issues that he needs to work through. I am not sure how much he work he will do if you continue to stay connected. Hope that makes sense.

You do have to do what feels right for you because we aren't in your shoes.

hugs, kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory