Doing hard time on the MLC chain gang.

[Cadet]

anything she says would be taken with a grain of salt.

Eric that is why you believe nothing of what is said and 50% of what they DO! Actions speak louder than words.

[MHL]

Eric,
I keep a journal with me all the time, I have filled 3 120 page spiral notebooks, it is interesting to go back and read, especially when I think there is nothing positive going on. You know this already, but in just what you said in your previous post is positive compared to 3 months ago.

Funny, lately W has been somewhat "pleaseant", which is my way of saying she at least says "hi" or "have a good day".
trust me I can relate.

This stuff is gold and you have to recognize it as positives and build from there. It will happen!! Keep it up, I will try to get over to your thread later tonight or tomorrow, its "beer O'clock" here!!! Keep it up!!!

[trustingfaith]

MHL,

So glad you are seeing so many positives! Keep doing whatever it is you are doing - it seems to be working!

So your D13 hasn't warmed up to your W at all yet?

Have a good evening!

[ericmsant2]

Thanks Missher - I'll stop the hijacking of your thread but a few more positives today. I do keep a journal and can see how things have changed. I am sticking to my plan...allowing things to happen and focus on me and detaching.

God Bless,
Eric

[MHL]

Eric,
No worries on the hijacking, hijack away. I am having trouble finding the time to get on the boards these days. I could not get on last night. Sounds like a good plan. I can say that "allowing things to happen" is a great statement of letting go of control, so easily said and so hard to do.

TF,
So good to hear from you. No my D13 has not warmed up but is doing better these days, the therapy is helping. We came close to going the psychiartrist route and started her on Anti D's but then she started doing better.

My W came over on Monday to pick up S9 and ended up staying until 10 pm. I asked D13 if she minded and she just stayed in her room and watched TV and ate dinner up there. Usually my D13 gets very upset if my W is in the house. My W was there for 3.5 hours and it did not seem to have an effect on my D13 the next day.

[trustingfaith]

Glad to hear your D seems like she is making progress with her therapy, etc. It is so hard watching what this can do to our kids!!

Things just seem to keep progressing for you. It is so good to hear! Just keep taking it one day at a time. It's great that your W was spending time at your house and your D handled it okay.

Hang in there - time and patience (and lots of prayer:))seem to be the key!

[MHL]

TF,
I still get my expectations up a little and they don't get dashed it just stirs the emotions up and they come back to the surface when there is progress and I have to wait again.

There was another major small goal of mine from months ago that was just achieved a few hours ago. My W texted me to see how I was doing!

My Mom came up from FLA yesterday to get the kids and take them back to FLA for part of Spring Break. S9 spent the nite with my W and so when she was dropping him off this morning she could she that I was not myself. (i was having a major bout of separation anxiety with the kids leaving).

She texted....R U OK? Or just sad the kids r leaving?

I responded and it went back and forth a little then ended but this is the first time she has contacted me to inquire about me in 9 months. I will have to look but I think this was one my small goals way back in September 2009.

[trustingfaith]

That's awesome about the text from your W. I know what you mean about trying to keep your expectations at zero but that being so hard!

I hope you are able to fill the time with your kids being gone.
Sounds like a fun trip for them for spring break.

[MHL]

Now that the warm weather is here, I have yard work to attend to which I actually enjoy and also I can catch up on cleaning the house with the kids not home to undo that. LOL Never ending there. I do have some things I am going to do for me. I got invited to go to a Bday party with friends from the neighborhood at a local bar on Friday, should be good. I don't have to worry about getting home to the kids or getting up with them the next morning.

[ericmsant2]

Hi Missher...

Just wondering how things are going. Are you okay?

Eric