More discussions on her timing - I told her I couldn't understand why she wouldn't wait 2 months and she said she found a place she likes and wants to get it. I told her the following:

There will be plenty of rentals out there in the future as well especially when school gets out and people move

We don't have the cash on hand right now to secure the rental next week unless I do an early withdrawl from our IRA but in 2 months things will be better after I get our taxes paid, etc.

The graduation party for S18 will be awkward at best given that she just moved out and there will be many people upset about it. His memory of his HS graduation will be that his parents just split up and it will be on the minds of everyone at the party.

Our kids are trying to finish the school year, keep their grades up, finish end of year testing, etc

Spring sports are going on on top of all this -baseball spring basketball softball (D16 plays varsity)

Why layer on top of all this parents splitting up and kids having to move between houses??

Her answer - the party for S18 should be no different than it would be now - it sounds like you will be the one having the problem and you need to get over it. People separate all the time....

I told her 'everyone' would be having a problem.

Amazing how singularly-focused they can be when it is time to go. I know she is getting pushed by OM to do this as well and he cares nothing about our kids. She is making this out to be an argument between me and her and I am trying to get her to consider others and forget about me, but no deal.

Then again, if it were any other time I would be telling her go ahead and leave. It is just the worst possible timing other than at Christmas or something.

ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline