You just need to realize that the bar can be raised quite a bit for the type of guy that you deserve. Just look at what SandyCay has now. I think you should not settle for anything less. Heal from your D and you will find a good man who you have chemistry with, activities/hobbies in common, similar religious/political views and who has very little baggage.
Remember that love is a choice, but that it is not recommended to try to force love and attraction towards another. I tried that with my last girl friend and you eventually find that you cant fake it anymore (women are better at faking certain aspects than guys).
Kerry I agree with this 1000%. I am not sure what is going to happen with R but I don't consider it a relationship by any means. AndI am certainly not looking at it as my next, last relationship!
R is a guy I really like as a person, he is a good guy, funny, smart, we have a lot of the same interests. You are right though he doesn't have the whole package (he does not love Glenn Beck, running, or country music). But when I described the ideal guy I wanted a few months back, John told me that guy most likely did not exist!
So I am not lowering expectations. For example I know for sure that I am NOT INTO college band guy. So if I ever do go watch him play I will go with some friends and just enjoy good music. I won't be going out with him alone agan, I have no desire to...
I know I am physically attracted to old HS bf who is back in town. But I also know he has children with a woman and that they seem to be having an on-again, off-again thing. So I am not pursuing anything there either, although a one-night makeout session would prob be ok with me!
Basically I like hanging out with R because he is fun to hang out with. And he is very good with words (duh he is a communications/lit teacher!), which sometimes leave my mind wandering. I am curious enough to see what happens. But if I decide we don't have great chemistry then I won't be crushed, either....I am young and I have plenty of time to figure out what will be best for me...
