Allen and Puppy will disagree I am sure, but it's just my opinion. Sometimes we have to listen to stuff even if we know it's not true or we don't like it; you can still learn from it. You have already said in an earlier post that listening has not been something you have been good at in the past - so it would be a good 180 for you.
I am all for listening to something he has to say if its under respectful circumstances. Demanding the time, place, and location out of your spouse for a one-sided conversation is not something I would reccomend accepting.
If he is willing to show you enough respect to negotiate a time to talk then I say give him all the ears he wants, but the way he handled it was why I reccomend you refuse him. Refurse and set an example of how to negotiate a civilized talk. Removing the fuse from your car to force a one-sided spew of lies is not it.
As long as he respects you and negotiates then give him an ear. If he starts lying or yelling, then you END it.
I guess that's one point I will challenge, I don't agree that a talk should continue once lies start coming forth... I would tell him you wont' tolerate being lied to and walk out.
