CW, good for you for the thought stopping. I guess we will just have to get creative about doing the things we want to do without our Hs.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Hi FM-hope you are doing ok...sounds like some good sleep would be in order!
I do plan to take the kids camping myself this summer! My SS and his family would love to go this year too since the boys are older now! Will be interesting to see how we do with the camper but think between all of us, we will get it figured out!
Got the painting done in the bedroom except for touch ups but that will wait! Need to keep scrubbing the paint splatters off the floor but it is coming along!
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Hey, I want to go camping, too!! LOL!! Sounds like FUN! As my husband would say, catch fish and poison oak, get mosquito bites, burn those marshallows...LOL, it's been years since I did that, though.
Seriously....it's a good way to GAL, CW; get out and experience nature, it's peaceful in the woods.
You'll figure it out, CW, and have fun doing it, too!
Have fun with the paint splatters..the walls are purty, but the cleanup gets a little crazy! LOL!!
Have a good one.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
Hi HB! Yes, there is no reason why the kids and cannot camp on our own! SS and family want to try it this year too so between all of us, we will figure out how to hook up the camper and turn on the fas etc.!!!! The kids have been asking! And yes, the way I paint...clean up is a little crazy!
H called this morning to ask about a matter concerning the rental house...back taxes...yes, we owe some and it is to the point of being foreclosed on so he asked if I had called to see what is going on with that! Told him I was waiting to hear from the L that is handling it. The point is is that he just didn't know if he could come up with the money and what should "we" do. I just told him I didn't have an answer!
Then, he calle me again to tell me he'd been to the rental house and had removed the trash that they had left behind and got rid of some yard waste and to call if the code people called again..ok...
Then, he called again, but I was in the tanning bed, my co-worker told him I'd stepped out for a little bit and he tried calling my cell phone and didn't leave a message. I didn't call him back but when I got home there was a message saying that if the code people called, he wanted the name of the neighbor that is complaining or to give them his cell # and he'd talk to them. He also left a message for the kids saying he had left some Easter candy in the garage fridge since he "didn't get to see the kids on Easter" and just wanted him to know that he'd been thinking of them...so...he coulda called them Easter morning and talked to them!!!!!!!! He coulda asked to see them, he coulda came with us......whatever.
Not reading anything into this except that he is still expecting me to take care of his issues but it is the most I have heard from him in one day since he left! That is all!!!!
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Good for you for making camping plans. I'm a bit chicken. I'm going to try to, but my littles can be pretty hard to manage and tend to go off in different directions...can be hair-raising!
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Hi FM- have a friend or relative go with you!!! I think your kids would love it! I understand about them going off in different directions...
CX5-I don't know for sure. IF he comes up with money, it will be a loan. The bank that he usually borrows from is very good about that but he is behind 2 months in payments to his hot rod and dirt bike...they may not help him. I've got it, I CAN help but I don't trust that I would get it back. I didn't tell him that I got a check from the county of our partially paid real estate tax money and that our federal income tax is back...let him stew a little! I think he is going to be totally overwhelmed about finances here pretty soon! Amazingly, I am quite calm now about it all. I am usually the one that freaks out about money. In the past, I would have gone crazy thinking we'd lose th house in foreclosure! Now, I just want to make sure that we don't lose it so that I can sell my half of it to him and be done with the whole thing!
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Good for you CW! I think you handled that sitch great! Let your H feel the consequences of having to handle those things on his own. Let him see what it's like not having CW there to clean up behind him. Protect yourself and your kids and let H twist in the wind.
Thanks guys! I needed to hear "detaching" since I haven't been doing well with that!
Got the total we owe for back taxes from the L today so called H to tell him. Yep...he is sweating it! He has been burning all his money "bridges" (me, bank, sister)...will be interesting to see if/how he comes up with his half.
Hope everyone has a great day!
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