Everyone has a lot of crap in their lives. That said, My STBXH's brother abandoned his wife two years before STBXH did us. He talked horribly about him and would say "even if he abandoned SIL he shouldn't abandon children." Well, guess what mine did exactly the same thing he detested for so long. You will notice we recondiled for 18 months... we never fought or anything during this time but after about 6 months... somethig was off ... Of course, he denied and denied and did wonderful things (actions) to show me he loved me and all the while was lying. Now, my STBSH has no history of lying at all... this was the start so take it for what it's worth...l but your wifes insistence about going out that much and being married is wrong. Single people don't go out that much at our age. There are red flags all around this situation. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck. It's a duck!
you say yourself that she acts differently when drinking and she's drinking with the OM and being in a car alone with him? Why don't you go with them? I would certainly be doing some investigating on what's going on. Why wouldn't a woman come pick her up?
Do you really think that if she had anything going on with this fellow she would admit it at this point? Come On! You know you can't believe people in the throws of an EA or PA.
Your wife went out on Easter and went out last night and probably going out this weekend. That's crazy! That's not just needing some time with friends.... doesn't she have all day to lunch with her friends or grab coffee... that's what happy married people do. They don't make their spouse uncomfortable with their social lives.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
