How to approach W about OM

[sandi2]

I know most of us would prefer to have a positive situation where you do nice things such as gifts every once in a while

We must be discussing two separate things. OIN took flowers to the lady in the hospital (which is not his W) and unless he is using that as some avenue to kiss a$$, then it has nothing to do with what I am talking about. But, sending flowers to a WAW two or three times a week is certainly not something a LBH should do.

I know most of us would prefer to have a positive situation where you do nice things such as gifts every once in a while,

Most of us would prefer to have a positive situation.....period. But with a WAW, it is not one.

and it has nothing to do with "power" or control.

In some cases it might be seen as one trying to control, but in a MR it is seen by the WAS as very pursuing. That was why I did not agree with that line of thinking.