Thanks OP. Point taken. I was always good at doing that Just need to journal a bit now...
I can't help thinking that Lodo really hit the nail on the head about maybe my W is at a turning point, not necessarily MLC but something that is on the precipice of it. I am thinking that maybe this is an opportunity for me/us to do things in our lives that will improve the quality of our marriage BEFORE we get to a really bad place again. I can only hope that W is not really involved with OM, and it's just what she says it is. I also hope that as bad as her sis's sitch is, and it sounds bad, that my W learns from her feelings about it and applies it to herself/us. I hope that there is a chance to head this stuff off before it takes roots in our marriage again. I sewed the seeds of our poor marriage in the past, and have been doing that again. No more... I hope. I really want to be a positive force in all this but I have to tell you, there is a LOT of crap going on in our lives, financial, personal, etc, that it's really hard to stay PMA. I will try though.
Just need to journal a bit now...