First off, you are doing okay...could be better but hey we all make mistakes. The key is the learn from them and ensure that we do not continue to make them.
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If only I could follow it through.
Focus on you and not him and you just may be able to follow through with them.
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I will continue to try.
That is all you can do - know that YOU CAN DO THIS!
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a result of stress at work and my anxiety
What are YOU doing to eliminate the stress? Define a plan of action...work out in the morning, go for a walk during lunch, have dinner with the girlfriends at least once a week, listen to music, pray daily oh....and pick up that puppy will ya
This will help eliminate the stress as will detaching from the situation.
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He wrote back that I should not have received anything because he did not initiate any new summons and then said he cancelled the last one.
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he just responded..."wait, stop, please just stop..."
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He inidated that he is concerned about the costs of going through lawyers for everything.
I call all of the above POSITIVES and answered prayers. Can you shift how you view these...consider where you were a few weeks ago and the interactions that you were having with H. They were negative, agressive...now look at the positives above.
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He then texted, "I needed to just get away from our situation and that is why I left".
IMO this SCREAMS....I'm confused, I need time, I still do not know what I want, I'm hurt, I'm scared.
Look honey...you are doing really well - better than you think. Your prayers are being answered. It is the 2nd half of the game and know is the time for you to remain on course. Stick to your plan...love his from a distant, give him and YOU this time, take this time to heal and GROW.
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I know that you will all say that I need to STOP reacting when I receive something as a result of my H.
Sounds simple...but then just STOP - Once you really detach you will see the pain that he is in and no longer allow yourself to respond to HIS crisis.
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This MLC is just driving me insane....
It drives all of us insane - if we let it. The key is to not allow it. To detach...to focus on ourselves. What areas in your life do you need to change. Patience maybe...
D - as I said earlier you are doing pretty good. Keep focused on the goal at hand and let nothing and I mean nothing deter you from your goals. That includes HIS issues.
Now go pick up that puppy please!
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
