That's self explanatory - he is in replay - revisiting his youth - part of his MLC Journey, nothing you can do, just let him go through it. He seems to be a "classic case" by what you are describing.
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Do they ever stop wanting to be so young?
I guess that will happen in the "acceptance" stage of his MLC.
BTW there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel young, but rational people don't go about searching for lost youth the way MLC's do.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
SCH, that's a great news that he is considering coming back. Maybe he is slowly coming out. I don't thing all the MCL symptoms will disappear right a way, he prpably still has ways to go. I guess what counts is his level of commitment to you and your family that will show you if he is ready to rejoin the "real world".
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Well, WH called last night and still says he wants to reconcile.
He also realizes that since I live in another city and work full-time and look after the kids full-time, that it would be hard for me to "date" him in his city.
He proposed that he hangs out at my house for 4 weeks.
But then what???? If it's all love and romance, he can work on trying to get a job in my city, or put me back in the untenable position of living in 2 cities while having a "relationship"?
He says it's not fair to make him try to find work here if I'm not taking him back, because then he doesn't want to live here, he wants to live in his city. And he still maintains that we should NOT live in his city (He has a point because I do have an amazingly great job here, and the kids are thriving, but don't really care as I can work there at something in his city, and the kids will do well if we do, yes?)
Sound reasonable, smelly, please DBs... WHAT do you think??
Wasn't he moving to France last week? Did that fall through?
It almost sounds like he is going through OW withdrawl and your are potentially the new OW. But that is just a guess. Trying to figure out what is going on in their head is difficult at best.
You do get to decide if you want to reconcile but to me this is very fast. Has he done any of the work? I don't think so. There should be more than just talk. There should be actions. What actions have you seen?
WH keeps asking me if he should be moving on with his life or try to reconcile to be with me.
Why am I suddenly the one who is supposed to answer this, he left us?!!!
I understand this completely! My H would do the same thing...I would always be speechless on what to say...I mean, he did leave.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
