Question: With MC coming up this week...how do you validate your H feelings even though they have such a different reality than your own and most other people on the planet? Everything I read says you must validate their feelings or it appears that you do not understand them and they feel more isolated.
"I understand..but your nuts?"..."I understand..but you sound like any other man just getting out of an EA/PA? and you may as well be a carbon copy?"..."I understand how you feel but what you are feeling is completely based on the reality that you have created in your head...and not the real world?"..."I understand how you feel...although you were/are acting like a 17 year old boy with his loins on fire?"
How do you correct the rewritten history of your H without sounding defensive?
"Sure it happened like that...but this is the way it really happened H?"
I don't want to seem like I am talking him out of his feelings and reality. I think that will make him dig his heels in deeper.
