Hope- YOU are strong too. You're still fighting, aren't you? You're still getting up in the morning and wading through the muck to take care of you and S and live a life. That is strength, my dear, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
You made it a day, right? Now all you have to do is one more day- then we'll all check in and cheer you on again . There is a whole team out here thinking of you and rooting you on. I know it seems so counter-intuitive to be dark when you want to reach out to him, but I agree it's best and it will NOT hurt your hopes of potentially reconciling- it can only help, by letting things calm down, letting you gather your strength and giving him a big gaping hole of silence that will seem so out of character that he will start wondering and thinking...
(((H4L)))
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.